Expressing feelings is something we are always told that is a good thing but really is it and who determines whether it is good because from my experience and the experiences i have heard off other people when they have expressed there feelings are bad. the feeling once they tell some one and open up always is negative people using them against them (throwing what they said back in there face). in other cases when telling other of how they are feeling they simple dont care and just ignore you and make you feel completley invisable so are we ment to speak up about feelings or not ?
Expressing your feelings without words is a common way people deal with themselves usually this comes after they have tried to speak how they are feeling but feel like no one is listening or wants to know. the common ways that i know that a person expresses there feelings are:
- Isolating themselves– taking them away from not only the situation that made them in this sate in the first place but away from the people they care about in fear of rejection if they find out how they are truely feeling (if they havent told them or told them the whole story) not wanting to be around people who they know deep deep down that they arre trying to help them but instead they feel like they are not worth the help.
- Lashing out– whether it is verbal or physical . whether its to themselves to others. this is what i call a cry for help. verbal lashing out usually comes before the physical. they will do anything in there power to push your buttons by saying stuff that they know you will react to sometimes in my opinon this is usually a test to see if you are really going to be there for them that you are going to stick by them through whatever they are dealing with, to see if your going to abadon them in there time of need normally when this happens the person saying all the things they dont mean it and sometimes have no recall of themselves saying these things to you. physical abuse can be a number of things from :
writing on property
out of control behaviour
getting into fights
going out drinking every night
What i am trying to say is if your one of these people that tell others its okay to talk to me and to open up to me then when and if they do remember it takes alot for a person to open up so dont throw it back in there face, dont ignore what they tell you but dont be all up in there face , be sensitive be there for them and make them feel loved and accepted no matter what they are dealing with.